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Wednesday, February 26, 2014

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attention all pregnant, soon to be pregnant or maybe sometime in the future to be pregnant ladies.

this post is a must read for a healthy pregnancy and delivery!

that's right what got you into this will also benefit you throughout, well the rest of your life but definitely improve the next nine crucial months!

Benefits of sex for a healthy pregnancy, labour and delivery

Pregnancy

- boosts immune system

- you are less likely to have many GBS outbreaks since semen

contains anti-biotical properties effectively killing the GBS!

- it helps you sleep and not just from the physical act tiring you out but the release of oxytocin mixed with any melatonin present brings on the sweet slumber!
-prepares your perineum by encouraging good circulation and elasticity of your perineal tissues
- healthy PC muscles allow for a more controlled pushing stage and less chances of tearing. Having sex throughout pregnancy will mean well oxygenated, more toned and conditioned PC muscles. Also be sure to do lots of squats (how to add squats to your life coming in another post!) or better yet squats while having sex... ensuring the muscle is toned, long and elastic not bulky and rigid
-the prostaglandins in a man's semen help to soften and ripen the cervix which will mean its prepped and ready for dilation when the time is right.
-keeps the intimacy alive! beside the science of releasing specific hormones and their effects on the body, a loving and healthy relationship is so important as you embark on the next chapter ... parenthood.

Labour and Birth
- being sexually active in pregnancy will allow you to reap the benefits during labour, your toned pelvic floor will be aligned with the pelvic basin, your perineum will be sinewy and relaxed. Your cervix will be prepped and soft, your immune system at its best and you'll be ready to embrace the hormones of labour.
-create an ambiance as you would in the bedroom, low light, gentle sounds, music.
-touching, kissing, nipple stimulation, skin to skin contact are all beneficial during labour
-movement is key, allow your body to open up just as you did to create the baby,
use it to help get the baby out! Going on all fours, squatting, forward bend,
move your hips to help align baby into the right birthing position

to read the full post click here

Wednesday, October 16, 2013

busy equals important

I read this blog the other day and it struck a bunch of different emotions in me.

I've never thought that working-in home moms are lazy nor do I wonder what they do all day, I know full well what they do because while I do it after working hours and all weekend and they do it all the time. I also know that sometimes I welcome Monday's because I get to go to work and you know pee alone, or have 5 minutes to myself to think or not think and enjoy silence. Also applause to this husband for being so grateful and appreciative to his wife for mothering their children, raising them and knowing how difficult her "job" is!

I also know that sometimes the judgement is coming the other way too. I've felt it from other moms (work-in-home moms) that look down at me (a working-out-of-the-home mom) for "not caring enough to stay at home" or that I'm somehow less than because I send my kids to daycare. It's tough no matter what your situation is. The grass is always greener or so we think.

"It’s true — being a mom isn’t a “job.” A job is something you do for part of the day and then stop doing. You get a paycheck. You have unions and benefits and break rooms. I’ve had many jobs; it’s nothing spectacular or mystical. I don’t quite understand why we’ve elevated “the workforce” to this hallowed status. Where do we get our idea of it? The Communist Manifesto? Having a job is necessary for some — it is for me — but it isn’t liberating or empowering. Whatever your job is — you are expendable. You are a number. You are a calculation. You are a servant. You can be replaced, and you will be replaced eventually. Am I being harsh? No, I’m being someone who has a job. I’m being real."

It's true though, no matter how good you are or how much you care about your job- you are expendable and replaceable. It's a sucky reality especially when you've held a lot of your self-worth in your working life. It's not to say you still can't get satisfaction out of your job but consider this....

"In any case, I’m not looking to get into a fight about who is “busier.” We seem to value our time so little, that we find our worth based on how little of it we have. In other words, we’ve idolized “being busy,” and confused it with being “important.” You can be busy but unimportant, just as you can be important but not busy. I don’t know who is busiest, and I don’t care. It doesn’t matter. I think it’s safe to say that none of us are as busy as we think we are; and however busy we actually are, it’s more than we need to be."

sound familiar? this hit me like a tonne of bricks. YES, I totally equate being busy to being important. If you are busy and stressed then you must be important, or doing important things. It's rather twisted and definitely something I am working on in my life.

But being a mom is not replaceable, being their mom is not expendable. We make mistakes and we are not perfect but either way we love our kids. fiercely.

So whether you are are stay at home mom or a working outside the home mom- high fives! This is a rough gig sometimes, sometimes it's the greatest too.

Monday, August 20, 2012

Happy Anniversary

Thirteen years together

and celebrating our first Wedding Anniversary today!

Last year I couldn't believe how exhausting planning a wedding was....

turns out I was growing baby girl at the same time.

What a year!

Monday, January 23, 2012

Days of Pregnancy 26 Weeks!

Ok this post is a little as I am now into the 27th week...
but last week was a crazy busy one at work and I was completely exhausted.

Guy and I just booked a little mini vacay and we leave on Thursday (come home Sunday night) sans Oliver... eeeks! This is going to be the first time I have ever been away from him for more than a night. I know it's time and I'm really looking forward to a couple of days with Guy- without work and without the responsibilities of a child, especially as we get closer to having a 2nd one! Also I guess it's about time we enjoyed a little honeymoon too.

Check out my Days of Pregnancy Series here

Saturday, June 25, 2011

Weekly Wedding Inspiration

Love a unique centrepiece and the idea of not using cut flowers

but a more sustainable option like planted herbs

What a beautiful way to display your fave family photos!

Green and natural = lovely

Don't know why but I am drawn to mustaches like a moth to a flame (not real mustaches just fake ones!)

Definitely opting for a headpiece like this over a traditional veil.

And how gorg is this hair!

Origami Birds.... yes please.

Thursday, June 16, 2011

Weekly Wedding Inspiration

Our Invitations are printed and on route, I should receive them tomorrow (YIPEEEEE)!

Great- just in time for the Canada Post strike ugggghhh. Luckily most will be hand delivered,

just not sure about the ones going to PEI?

I picked up my wedding band yesterday (YIPEEE), guess I didn't need to order it 3 month in advance afterall but it's here so another check off the list.

I am feeling pretty good about the planning so far.... 65 days and counting.

This weeks inspiration